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Imparting Self Care Ideas

On a monthly basis, you will find a story that encourages you to think differently about your life. This month we focus on changing your attitude.

Time

Time. This is a daily thought for me. Is there enough time for me to meet my goals, organize, and write? First things first, I wake up, ponder for a moment as I wash my face and brush my teeth. I put on my running clothes, and tie my sneakers, pull my hair into a cap, and put on my headset then head outdoors. Because I do this almost every morning, I’ve noticed the change of the season. The air is chiller, leaves that were green weeks ago, have turned to orange, red or yellow and lay beneath my feet. I reminded that soon the clocks will fall back, and it will get darker earlier. While I might hate to lose the time to darker afternoons, I reflect on what does it mean for me and will I fall back into unhealthy habits.

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Future Blog Topics about Mindset Change

How can you support yourself care regiment this month? i.e.
  • Read a book,
  • Play in the snow
  • Tap into your childhood like wonderment
  • Watch a good movie if you have access to (Apple, Hulu, Netflix, Roku)
  • Draft a short story
  • Practice baking bread
  • Recognize your headspace
  • Write a letter (Art of Letter writing)

 

Planning Your Reality List
  • Court appointments
  • Medical care
  • Social Service Agencies
  • Faith based connection
Wish List
  • Things will be different when I….
  • In a couple of weeks, months…..
Holiday Winter Blues
  • Anticipation planning
  • Reach out to a friend and share some cheer
Start a Good Habit Campaign.
  • Take inventory of what is one good habit you could develop
  • Something you always wanted to do
Take a Bold Step
  • Step out of your comfort zone
  • Here is how to ….
Why Is Quiet Time Important?
Let’s focus.

Recent Blogs

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My anxiety felt like a heavy weight on my chest, making it difficult to concentrate.

When you have moved on..

When you moved on and others or your abuser want to keep you where you were. Speaking with a friend, let’s call her Joanie called me dismayed that three years of all the court proceedings, and her abuser jailed, her life was on track. Joanie moved to a new state,...

A Version of Me

When you think about the past year, do you feel you’ve grown into a version of yourself that makes you happy? Why or why not? After a year of wondering, I have been thinking about this question for the last two weeks. Losing my friend was so sudden that I still feel...

Exposure

After I read the magazine article about me in Humans of Fuzia, the abuse I suffered and how it changed my life, a range of feelings washed over me. I had planned to stand up against what people thought about me, but I realize that my desire to stay out of the spotlight brings on a feeling of shame, embarrassment, and doubt. I think when we suffer abuse, hiding is a safer place to be than exposing ourselves to the condemnation of others. Questions about how could this happen to you or my favorite, what did you do to make him mad?

A Survivor in Her Own Words

This month I am sharing with you the words of a woman, a survivor share with me in one of our weekly conversations. Her words and wisdom she gained about her abusive situation is a lesson on she gained power to push back and move forward. Please note this brave woman has given me permission to share.

“It’s ok to not be ok as long as you get help and reach out to the right people. I’m a domestic violence survivor and I’m still here to talk about it and move forward. Abuse is not OKAY. And sometimes it’s not always physical. Bruises and broken bones heal over time, but no one knows my journey or the true healing process to overcome the emotional and psychological abuse that I experienced. No one knows what it’s like. But I chose me 100% ❤️❤️‍🩹❣️

Look at the journal topic this month “I will not believe the lie….(add) what my abuser says to me.” if it’s applicable.